I was feeling this way a couple months ago. Resentful. Are you feeling resentful too? Maybe because you’re putting others first over yourself?
I was talking to my boyfriend and realized I was overcommitting to so many social obligations because the holidays were coming and I missed seeing people.
We had plans to go to the Getty Museum in LA and he asked, “Do you want to have the day to yourself?”
It took me a while, but I finally said, “YES!”
It’s fascinating that we’re constantly wanting to put others first. It’s a great reward to help others. When our parents need something from us, we’ll drive or fly to them. When something happens to our kids, we’ll adjust and adapt.
I want to remind you that it is required to put yourself first so that you can be the best partner, mother, child, father, and all the roles that are important to you. So many generations before us sacrificed so we can have this luxury, to unselfishly put ourselves first.
I even had a session with my client recently who has had a successful career for the past 30 years and he said to me, “I just want to be happy again.” As I asked more questions, we realized he wasn’t doing his morning gratitudes with his family like he used to during the summer because of a lack of time.
I asked him, “Well, can you do this during dinner time when you are all together?”
He said, “Yes!” and even shared how both his sons and wife loved it!
The holidays were coming. Thanksgiving was in 2 weeks, people were starting to see each other. Did you know that the end of the year tends to have the highest car accidents because people are stressed?
I want to ask, when things get busy, do you put yourself first? What is that one thing you can do for yourself just this week?
Email me at [email protected] and let me know.
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